New system for punishments

I started a system for m that will determine the number of swats or what type of punishment m will receive.  I bought poker chips and wrote 5 thru 15 on 20 chips each, and 10 draw again chips with -5 and +5 and 2 draw again chips with -10 and +10 on them.  When m is to be punished she will draw from the can and she will receive that number of swats…

m’s epiphany

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An epiphany (from the ancient Greek ἐπιφάνεια, epiphaneia, “manifestation, striking appearance”) is the sudden realization or comprehension of the (larger) essence or meaning of something. The term is used in either a philosophical or literal sense to signify that the claimant has “found the last piece of the puzzle and now sees the whole picture,” or has new information or experience, often insignificant by itself, that illuminates a deeper or numinous foundational frame of reference.

m’s epiphnay happened tonight.  We had an argument. It was rather heated. Nothing to do with the lifestyle but everything to do with life. During the argument, m called me Sir.  When m and I went out to dinner I took the opportunity to tell her how proud I was of her.  There was a punishment tonight for failing to write in her blog. It was going to be 10 swats, I am feeling leinient tonight because of her actions tonight so it will only be 5.

GOOD JOB m!!!

Proactive vs. Reactive

I read another blog discussing this topic and it got me thinking.

The image we associate with “proactivity” is one of grace under stress. To stay with the previous analogy, let’s say you’re in choppy waters. Now, you look more at ease. It’s not just that you anticipate the waves. You’re in tune with them. You’re not desperately trying to escape them; you’re dancing with them.

It would be great to dance with the rhythm of life, using the ebb and flow of events as a source of energy. But is this only possible to those people who are endowed with a proactive attitude?

The word “reactive” implies that you don’t have the initiative. You let the events set the agenda. You’re tossed and turned, so to speak, by the tides of life. Each new wave catches you by surprise. Huffing and puffing, you scramble to react to it in order to just stay afloat.

So how does this fit into  a M/s relationship? I see a Masters role as being proactive and reactive.  Being proactive involves the training of your slave and reactive also involves the training of your slave. You do not have to huff and puff to react, well I guess you can but that would defeat the calm and cool reaction your slave needs and is looking for. I think the more proactive you are in your training, the less reactive you will have to be. Being reactive, (ie: punishments) is a reactive tool that is proactive.  I am sure my slave would not want a punishment again. As a slave grows and becomes more familiar with her Master, her roles becomes proactive in many ways, depending on how her Master trains her and what HE wants. These are just my thoughts yours could be different.